Beauty and the Aging Beast

If we believe we are defined by who we are, then we can carry that knowledge with confidence and defy any kind of aging. Note to Self: Must sew up hole in pocket or start carrying confidence somewhere else.beauty of a woman blogfest

I’m proud to be over fifty and hope to have many more years of Riding Wild. I fought cancer and won. I don’t take life for granted, but time can take its toll and we will be judged by how we look

That said, I think it’s unfortunate that it has become the norm to run to plastic surgeons for injections and procedures, sometimes with very unnatural results. When did the stretched out upper lip ever fool anyone into thinking the woman looked much younger? I’m not against these procedures, per se, just the injections by fluid ounce.

I wonder if women have lost perspective on aging. Don’t get me wrong. I am waging my own battle with the beast, but within reason.

I think it comes down to acceptance and expectations, something that existed decades ago. The majority of my mother’s generation didn’t even color their hair. It was unheard of to have plastic surgery in Wisconsin when she was my age. Facelifts were for movie stars. Now it has become affordable and accessible. Botox parties have become the rage. I haven’t been invited to any. Have you? With this increase in pressure, most women expect to look much younger than their age and they won’t accept anything less.

I attended an Arbonne Skin and Body Care party where the saleswoman made statements like, “You don’t want to look old, do you?” and, “Neck wrinkles age you.” Everyone scanned the room while I pulled the neckline of my shirt up over my nose. I was so self-conscious. I have very sensitive skin and Arbonne has the only anti-aging line I can use. I am satisfied with the product, but not with the message. 

dog pileWe are being brainwashed into thinking aging is bad, bad, BAD, and should be avoided at all costs. I think it’s inevitable. No matter what you do, the years will eventually catch up if we’re lucky enough to live that long. Pshhh! I expect to resemble a Shar pei when I’m 100-years-old!

Repeat after me: Wrinkles are beautiful. Wrinkles are beautiful. Wrinkles are beautiful. Your eyelids are getting heavy. You’re getting sleepy. When you wake up, you will be happy with your looks. Okay. You can stop repeating everything I say. It’s getting really annoying.

How I am dealing with a few of my own aging body parts:

Smile lines – I’ve always been a happy person, so I earned them in my mid-twenties.

Frown lines – The appearance of muscles between my brows are a direct result of squinting. I do want to prevent them from becoming so deep they could hold a pencil, so I wear reading glasses and massage the tissue to break them down. Good enough.Shar pei

Lip lines. I’ll take the trade off and live with a few of them instead of having an enlarged beaklike upper lip. I use Burt’s Bees lip balm before applying lipstick. Honestly, I’m lucky if I even apply lipstick before running out the door.

Age spots. They are the direct result of SIS – Shitty Irish Skin. My dermatologist couldn’t keep up with freezing my spots off during my annual exam. I have zillions of them! I think that if I had used my anti-aging face wash all over my body the last few decades, I wouldn’t have any.

Bride of FrankensteinMy Bride of Frankenstein hair – I may have more white hair than brown, so I dye it auburn. Yep. I will continue to indulge in hair color.

Losing muscle tone – I had a partial knee replacement and am waaay behind in recovery. My muscles became shrinky dinky after surgery due to swelling. I worked with my PT and even started on protein shakes, but discovered 10 CCs of fluid in a joint will prevent your muscles from working, so they remained shrinky dinky. My doctor pulled 20 cc’s of blood out of my joint last Monday and then flooded it with steroids. The good news? They kicked in over the weekend and I’m ready to hit the gym again, hard. Getting into shape holds no age boundaries. 

Saggy butt – I never look back there.

Bionic boobs – My fake boobs will always defy gravity, but I hope the scars will eventually fade.  I may consider nipple tattoos!

Aging is a given. There’s no reason to get obsessed or depressed about it. There is nothing better than life with all its ups and downs and it’s going to leave its mark.

My advice: Instead of putting so much time into improving your shell, work on your core. Confidence shines brighter than any tightened, lightened, stretched, or plumped up skin. Take care of your body. Eat healthy foods and exercise. Learn something new. Spend time doing what you love with people who care about you. Work hard on your goals and eventually you’ll accomplish a few. There is no better confidence booster.

I have adjusted to what is acceptable for my age and expect to appear older as I rack up the years. I want to celebrate my 100th birthday, so bring it on LIFE, even if it means the addition of a few more wrinkles!

I love my scars, wrinkles, and everything else that makes up this crazy person called Susie Lindau. Whoa! I talked about myself in the third person. I don’t have that big of an ego…I better put confidence back in my pocket full of holes where it belongs. 

Do you accept your wrinkles or throw your mirror against the wall? How many mirrors do you go through in a week? How far will you go to look young? 

 

This post is a part of August McLaughlin’s Beauty of a Woman Blogfest.

113 thoughts on “Beauty and the Aging Beast

    • It is! I wish more women spent the time on their core instead. There are so many options!
      I agree. I watched the Oscars last night and loved studying Meryl and Julianne’s faces. They both had lines and wrinkles and are stunning beauties. They radiate confidence! We need a lot more of strong women like them in Hollywood.
      Thanks Kitt!

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      • Working on our core instead of our exterior is so much more rewarding in the long run. And as I age, (I’ll be 50 this summer) I find that I don’t feel like that number anyhow! Sure, I might be 50, but as far as my enthusiasm and interest in life goes, I feel like I’m still 30. Great post!

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        • Age is such a funny concept. I’m in better shape than some twenty-year-olds and I had cancer and a partial knee replacement! It’s not the number, it’s how we live our lives. I’m waaaaay more ballsy and adventurous than most people.
          My parents have always sought out younger friends because they were young at heart. My dad turned 89 yesterday! Mom will be 85 in March. It’s all in the attitude.
          Thanks D!

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  1. Working on the core instead of the shell is a message worth repeating ~ thanks for that, Susie! I look forward to helping celebrate your 100th birthday and trust you will spread some of your endless sunshine and sparkle when I celebrate mine … much sooner than yours! Here’s to aging … it’s so much better than the alternative!

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  2. Like you, Susie, hair color is my one indulgence. But living in our dry Colorado climate, I do use a lot of moisturizers, a vitamin C serum and an age spot cream. While I’ve used sunscreen since it’s inception, I’ve been an “outdoor girl” all of my life, so I realize there is an aging price to pay for all of the fun! Just goes with the territory. But staying fit, eating well and getting enough sleep does go a long way towards a youthful vitality at any age. I’m proud of that!

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    • Woohoo! Go Cathy! I agree that enjoying life and risking wear and tear is so worth it. I am old enough to remember power tanning with baby oil. The only sunscreen was straight up zinc oxide! I agree about sleep. After surgery, I really struggled with that. Finally, I slept well this weekend.
      Did you go skiing this weekend?

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  3. I’m so with you here, Susie! I love that you’ve decided to embrace aging, and find practical ways to limit any angst. “Anti-aging” is one of my least favorite terms! Working on what matters makes life and us lovelier, in all ways.

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    • Ha! I never realized how negative anti-aging sounds. I agree that finding our passion and making it our focus is healthier than staring in the mirror and freaking out!

      Thanks for being a beautiful person inside and out! Looking forward to “festing.” 🙂

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  4. Remember when looking like a grandmother was a nice thing? Sweet? Kind? Warm and nurturing? I am 35 and a mom…I am very content to look 35 and like a mom. I know that’s not “old” but it’s getting to the age where trying to look young is a thing. I don’t want to. I really like being this age and I will stay my age whatever it is. I really appreciate your outlook.

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    • I remember that! Now a lot of grandmas don’t have one wrinkle and drastic plastic surgery can be scary-looking.
      That is so excellent that you are comfortable in your own skin, Mina and are embracing who you are. We all want to present ourselves at our best from time to time. For me, it’s been an adjustment, but nothing to get depressed about.

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  5. Susie, I’m glad the idea of aging doesn’t bother you. My question is, when are you going to start. After meeting you last summer, I’m sure you could get away with telling people you’re 39 as long as you want to. But you’re right on about working on the inner beauty rather than the external. Great post.

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    • Thanks David! You made my whole week!!!!
      When I began blogging a few years ago, I kept my age a secret. What I realized is the more honest about who I am, the better. I put my focus on family, goals and my Wild Life! The rest of it is just sugar coating….

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  6. The older I get, the more I believe that beauty radiates from within. In my humble opinion, a woman who ages with grace is far more beautiful than a woman who fights age artificially. We’ll see if I continue that belief as I enter my 60s. 🙂

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    • Hey Jan! It’s so great to “see” you!
      The good thing about getting older is it’s gradual. If I looked like this overnight and was still in my twenties, I’d have good reason to freak! 🙂
      I loved watching the Oscars last night. Julianne and Meryl both had eye and mouth wrinkles. They didn’t succumb to the botox and filler pressure. I was so proud of them. They were gorgeous!

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    • My advice is to do it within reason. For me personally, I’d live with the upper lip wrinkles. Julianne Moore had them when she made her acceptance speech last night and she had the lines between her brows too. Rock on Julianne! She’s gorgeous!
      I have a theory too… Women who get wrinkles are going to continue to get wrinkles. The more they stretch their skin out with fillers, the more the doctor has to fill over time! It only lasts a couple of months.
      Thanks Alica!

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  7. Plastic surgery seems so hit or miss. I figure if celebrities, who have access to the best doctors, come out looking a little strange, what would happen to me? I think aging gracefully is the way to go. I think laugh lines are sexy!

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    • Hahahaha! You hit it on the head, Dome Life Girl! I would be the one who would look completely weird. It’s temporary too. I gotta believe that as the filler dissipates, the wrinkles come in like gangbusters.
      I couldn’t get over all the orange spray-on tans at the Golden Globes. The backlash kept most from indulging at the Oscars. I didn’t see as many fat lips this time either. I can’t wait until this trend is OVER!
      Sexy laugh lines – I LOVE it!

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  8. Great post. I sometimes fantasize about botox but i don’t think I’ll ever do it. I’ll be the one in ‘whatever the odds’ that gets a droopy eye or whatever. Trying to stay positive. Don’t have a weight problem anyway and staying pretty fit! Oh, yes, I’m 53.

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    • I’m going to start a vlog series and will cover what I do to keep my upper lid from drooping into my eye, short of using clothespins behind my ears. Yes. It will be humorous.
      For some women, looking unnatural is better than having wrinkles. I think you have the right attitude and won’t have any problems. You are rocking at 53!

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  9. Great post Susie! I have noticed the outdoors healthy natural skin look of New Zealand women on commercials most of them about setting up in business or playing netball are far better than the commercials here with tonnes of make up on and must stay slim, look great. who is that for? Wish the kiwi message would make it’s way here.

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    • I wish that healthier outlook would arrive in the States! I would love to see the commercials.
      This new obsession with smooth skin reminds me of Dr. Suess and the Sneetches. The ones who went into the Star On machine considered themselves better than the ones without. The guy who ran the machine (the cosmetic surgeons) got rich!
      Thanks Catherine!

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  10. Love this post Susie, the wrinkles that bug me the most are 1. my neck and 2. around my mouth. I actually like the crow’s feet (laugh lines) and the groove between my brows (my deep thinker lines). Also, I wear reading glasses as well and when I look at my face without them, I look pretty good!

    But I have seen many wrinkles on others who are older than me and I think they look beautiful! Their wrinkles are like the adventurous road map of their lives. ❤
    Diana xo

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    • I love your line, “Their wrinkles are like the adventurous road map of their lives.” EXCELLENT!

      I never would have thought about my neck if I hadn’t gone to that party. After laying in bed typing for weeks on end, I think they are here to stay. “So go ahead and judge me!” I shouted into the abyss of the internet. Good. All I heard was the sound of crickets… 🙂
      Thanks so much Diana!

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  11. I love the idea of improving your core instead of your shell! My only concession to fighting aging is dying my hair (I started graying in my early 20s). Other than that I try to keep a healthy glow through exercise, healthy foods, and coconut oil. No injections or procedures on my horizon…people will just have to love my frown lines!

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    • I am so glad to hear that! I love coconut oil and use it in baking too. I almost feel like if I did succumb to injections, (I have no plans for them either), I would be cheating! I am as truthful as they get. I rather be judged for my wrinkles than for my tight face.
      Thanks so much!

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  12. Love it! If you think about it, what is “anti-aging?” Wouldn’t that be dying? As I’ve gotten older, deep lines have formed on my face and, after taking a year off from dying my hair, I have much more silver in it than I would expect for 29, but aging sure beats the alternative. And I’m happy! I may never have a thigh gap or creaseless face, but I would rather enjoy that cookie or those laughs than poke and prod at my body for vanity’s sake. In my family, the motto is: if you don’t like what you see, don’t look. 🙂

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    • Hahaha! I love your family’s motto: “If you don’t like what you see, don’t look.” That is EXCELLENT!

      I think life should be enjoyed too. It sounds like you have this whole aging thing down for someone so young! You have the right outlook and have your priorities straight in my opinion! 🙂
      Thanks Jessica!

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  13. I am only in my 60’s and I look like a Shar Pei, and I am fine with it. I recognized fairly early on that the way I had lived would catch up with me as I age, and it has. Yet, these last five years of healthy eating, meditation, and yoga have been the finest of my life. Who knew? Great post!
    Karen

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    • That is so good to hear! I meditated a few days ago for the first time in a while and slept like a baby. I would like to return to yoga too. It sounds like you have embraced your outer beauty and your core. You ROCK, KM!

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  14. As I watched the Oscars last night (or at least part of it), I thought how much better the uncosmetically enhanced women (and men!) looked compared to those who’ve had work done. I won’t mention names because every one has a right to do what makes them feel better, but some were a bit shocking.

    It’s hard not to feel that pull–that feeling we should be doing something. But who has time for the upkeep? What’s going to happen is going to happen. My sunscreen and Neutragena moisturizer is about as much maintenance as I want to do for my face. Now, if I could just ditch the make-up…

    Great post!

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    • I know what you mean, but at this point, I don’t want to look fake or filled. Once someone starts with injections they have to keep going every couple of months. I have enough trouble making my annual appointments! Ha! I’ve sat across from people who sucked on their upper lip all night. I gotta believe it felt like a fat lip because it was!

      I have no problem calling movie stars out. Believe me, they’ll never see this post. 🙂 I thought Nichole Kidman looked almost alien-like, but Julianne and Meryl looked great!
      Thanks Carrie!

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  15. We are all guilty of both sides of the argument at times. here i am, 56, I do very modestly color my beard and ‘stache. I cut my hair very short so the grey doesn’t show as much. I try to keep up on the “cool” things a bit. And, lastly, I find myself wishing to go out with someone years younger than me. Yes…we are all guilty.
    I am not horrible about it, so, for now, I think I will stick with what seems to be working. Don’t plan on marriage, so age isn’t a real issue right now, anyway.
    Just jabberin’ here. Feel free to take me down a notch!
    Scott

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    • It is so great to “see” you Scott!
      I think aging affects men too, so I’m glad you weighed in. Thanks for your honesty!
      It sounds like you have a handle on what works for you. I am hoping that my essay conveyed the same thing. I don’t want to look old and haggard, but I accept the fact that I’m getting older and my body is going to change. I’m doing things to fight aging, but nothing extreme.
      Thanks so much for jumping into the discussion!

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  16. Um…Susie, about how old was that Arbonne rep who trash-talked wrinkles and saggy necks? By the sound of it, I’m wagering that she was in her thirties or so. Wrinkles happen, if we’re lucky to live long enough to earn them.
    I agree about the hair color, though. I’m going to have flaming red hair when I’m in my nineties, hobbling around on a walker, boobs hanging to my knees, and chasing my hubby.

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  17. I live in a state that is high desert so it is DRY and the SUN SHINES 361 days a year – moisturizer and sunblock are key along with BIG hats and SPF clothing. Nothing ages me more than the sun, so I see a dermatologist every year for a skin cancer checkup, since I am so fair skinned to begin with. I have been gray since 21 – thanks mom – colored my hair up until 2009 and let it go natural and have not looked back on my decision. I believe in taking care of the hair, skin and nails from the inside out by eating well and hydrating (almost drink a gallon of water here a day). Having someone point out that you are aging is right up there with someone commenting on your overall body shape – shut up and shame on them! I had someone tell me recently if I was not fat that I would not have a big chest – WTH?!? I told that person that I love my whole being 🙂 Do people not realize we have been given the gift of life with one body to treasure and treat right each and every day. Great Topic Today – nurture and nourish yourself and do not feed into the BS people! Happy Day – Happy Week 🙂

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    • Thanks for stopping by to share, Renee!
      I agree that health is most important. Even though I lived a super healthy lifestyle, I went to hell and back as you know.

      I love that you quit dying your hair. I don’t have the nerve to do that, yet…

      It sounds like you met a real douche. Why are people so insensitive? I used to have a friend who pointed out things I shouldn’t do to age me like raising my eyebrows in surprise. WHAT???? Key words: used to….
      Happy Monday!

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  18. I’m ambivalent on the whole topic. I agree on that part about the importance of the inner-chick, being healthy, I earned my wrinkles, celebrate my time of life, yadda, yadda, yadda. But our society values youth and wishing doesn’t make it less true. Is it shallow to wish I had skin like my daughters instead of like my mom? Certainly. But it’s honest.

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    • My point of this post was an outcry against the “obsession” with looking young. You read my big list of things of what I’m doing to defy the aging beast, but it’s within reason.

      I know I didn’t say it, nor did I mean to imply that people are shallow for wishing their skin was the same as a twenty-year-old. Every sane woman would love to have skin like that! Ha! That’s why myself and millions of other women spend so much money on “magic potions,” with the hope they will turn back time.

      After going through so much shit, I’ve mellowed on the whole aging thing. Having a youthful appearance is fantastic with first impressions, but inner confidence goes a long way in leaving a lasting impression with people. After getting over the shock of meeting me, I’m sure they don’t remember my wrinkles at all! Hahaha!

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  19. I have a couple of reactions to this blog:
    1. You’re a cheese head? I will not say anything else about that. Nothing. Ja hey dere.
    2. I love the reactions I get from people out on the mountain bike trails, especially when a 20ish kid smiles at me in the parking lot and asks if I want to ride along. They always keep looking over their shoulder at me as they ride, as if it surprises them that I am still there. Often enough I get asked if I want to take the lead about halfway out!
    3. Aging reinforces the importance of developing quality relationships and the blessing of a strong marriage. Looks matter a whole less when you know a person from the inside out.

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    • This was such a sweet comment in so many ways!
      Yep. I’m from Madison and moved out to Colorado 27 years ago. You can take the cheese out of Wisconsin, but you can’t take the cheesehead out of the girl. Wait. What????

      I can so relate to your story about younguns. That has happened to me while skiing double blacks and a few times in tennis. Something I’m reeeeeally looking forward to in about late March!

      I absolutely LOVE #3. That is so true! The person’t heart and soul is EVERYTHING! You should send your comment to your wife! I bet you would get a, “Awwww!” from her!

      Thanks for weighing in!

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      • You must have learned to ski at Devils Head or Cascade Mountain. I learned at Cascade. Love the Madison area.. such a cyclist paradise!

        Start into the tennis slowly. You are getting old, after all. Wheelchair tennis probably isn’t as much fun.

        My wife usually just rolls her eyes when I say things like that. She thinks I am cheesy. I guess that is all part of the familiarity thing too.

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        • When did you live in Madison? Skied many times at Devil’s Head. Learned to ski at Tyrol Basin! 🙂
          What do you mean getting old? 🙂 I don’t do anything slowly, so I’ll start up tennis again when I can sprint and cream those reeeally old ladies with the walkers and the seeing eye dogs.
          Sounds like me and my husband. Nice!

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          • I was born and raised in central Illinois, have lived in the Chicago area 27 years (I am not making that up). I ride in Wisconsin a ton since I am so close. Rode the Kettle Moraine last Fall, do the Dairyland Dare almost every year (Dodgeville area), enjoyed the tunnels on the Elroy-Sparta trail, about killed myself riding the roads around Viroqua and Arcadia. In high school my friends and I would go up to Devils Head and Cascade several times a season.

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  20. Amen Sister! I’ve written on this very subject Susie. The weird thing is you see women with lots of procedures done and they still look their age but a weird shiny stretched version. It is difficult for me as well but I’m beginning to embrace the aging thing. What is the alternative? The thought of shooting poison in my face terrifies me. The thought of being put to sleep so someone can cut my face — I am too much of a chicken. I don’t begrudge anyone for doing so, but so far, I’ll take a no.

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    • You understand me! Thank you, Brigitte! I’m exactly where you are with all of this. I could see doing LED or other non-invasive therapies. I am waaaay overdue for just a plain old facial. I haven’t had one in several years. The last time, they took off so much skin, it looked like I hit the pavement after falling off my bike!

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  21. Susie…cheers to you–love this post, love your attitude, and my wrinkles (well, some of them). Every line tells a story, right? I’m so much happier with my whole being in my 50s than when I was in my 40s, 30s, 20s, etcetera. Thank you.

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  22. Well, I must confess, I have been blessed with pretty good skin. Sure, I had acne as a kid, still get pimples today, but the bright side of that is, oily skin keeps wrinkles at bay. You can’t have both, or so they say. I am getting fine lines around my eyes and I do have frown lines because I’ve never been able to see really well, thus squinting, but I’m not going to give up smiling just to prevent parenthesis around my lips. I’m just not going to do that. I’ll keep applying the serums and creams.

    I do, however, indulge in hair color. I’ve been going gray since my early 20’s. I hate grey hair and it does make me feel old. I don’t want to feel old, I want to feel young and look young. So . . . yes, that is my vanity item. My husband hates that I spend the money on hair coloring, but I hate that he smokes a pipe. We’ll call that even.

    I’ve always tried to take good care of my skin (except all those years of sun bathing with baby oil – uggg), but my face looks good today because my mother started me out really young on the benefits of a good skin care regime. I use good products and use them religiously. I try to eat healthy and drink lots of water and exercise when I can and when I feel like it.

    But, most importantly, I firmly believe that beauty does come from within and that truly beautiful people are those with the biggest hearts and the most confidence. I do not color my hair so that I LOOK better, I color my hair because it makes me FEEL better. There’s a difference. I feel less confident when my grey roots are showing. It’s a weird psychological thing, and I know it defeats the purpose of this blog fest, but, I’m being honest.

    Rock on pretty mama! Keep up the hair coloring and riding the wild ride. Cyber world wouldn’t be the same without you.

    Patricia Rickrode
    w/a Jansen Schmidt

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    • Thanks Patricia! You made my day!
      I have the same kind of skin. Oily skin when you’re young has it’s benefits when you’re older! Now that I’m on Tamoxifen, I don’t get any zits, but a few lines have made an appearance. I’m going to be 57 so it’s expected.
      I agree totally about hair color. I don’t think anyone notices my roots, but it’s a huge lift when I cover them up.
      My dad was a pipe smoker when I was a little kid. Fond memories! Glad it has become leverage for you…

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  23. I truly believe that beauty comes from within. If the person within is overly concerned with what’s on the outside of themselves, it will inevitably be reflected in their appearance. That being said, I try to avoid mirrors and people who are more superficial than me.

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    • You are the coolest 1point! It took me a while to figure out that some people were like that. I generally don’t check mirrors once I’m out which can be pretty apparent by the end of the night! 🙂

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  24. Aging with grace? My knees hurt, am out of breath need a nap and spend half my waking hours looking for my keys, my wallet and my glasses. The real pain is that you need your glasses to find everything else.

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  25. How timely your post is. I have noticed an acceleration of wrinkling and sagging and I don’t like it! That said, I’m not up for monthly expensive botox or the like.
    Guess my wild days are truly starting to show their age!
    Come on, Oil of Olay! Bring your miracles!!! 🙂

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    • I found that Arbonne worked better than Oil of Olay. I should be a rep for them! Ha!
      I think hormones have a lot to do with aging. I went through cancer and am on Tamoxifen which suppresses estrogen. I think that’s when I noticed some changes. The battle is ON!
      Thanks for stopping by to share! 🙂

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    • Health first! I used to get contact dermatitis from makeup until I started using Bare Minerals. The dermatologist said it was Rosacea. Pshh. It went away with Benedryl cream.
      I’m with you, Louise. Hair color gives me the biggest lift.

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  26. I love your attitude – keep doing what you are doing and I hope you get out on the slopes and start working on those muscles – it’s so sad but, our culture focuses on the outward self rather than the inward self. It is sad.

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  27. Susie, the gadfly in me wants to know if you watched any of the Oscar pre-ceremony shows last night and you saw Melanie Griffith? All of the work she has had done on her face to beat the clock only looks like the clock beat her back twice as hard and won by a TKO. Aging is not one of my preferred pastimes. In fact, I’d much rather watch cartoons. Seriously, I agree with Brigitte, “What’s the alternative?” One of the benefits of having been blessed with average looks is that I’ve never had any reason to be a vanity case. It also gave me reason to develop my stellar personality.

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    • You rock V!!! I agree. I wasn’t aware of my looks until maybe 7th or 8th grade.
      I missed most of the Red Carpet. Dang! I thought Nichole Kidman looked like an alien, but Julianne and Meryl looked fantastic! The problem is the skin tightening and filling comes off so unnatural and inhuman. Like you, I’m relying on my stellar personality. I may have to learn a few tricks which involve smoke and mirrors too!

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  28. I knew I could count on a raw and wild entry from you! When I was in my thirties, I swore I would NEVER consider any kind of “work” (nip/tuck, facelift). I still won’t because I am opposed to being sliced open for a non-medical reason, but as the years piled on I have much more empathy for those who decide to go that route. I consider myself very lucky to be nearsighted, so I look pretty darn good in the mirror without my glasses on. I try to stay far away from mirrors when my vision is corrected and I will not look at my face in a magnifying mirror. THAT is scary!

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  29. I am totally with you, Susie! My motto is: if I look as good as or better than most women my age, I ain’t doin’ bad! I am fortunate enough to have oily skin (the bane of my existence in my youth) so I have very few wrinkles. I do use firming cream on my neck to keep it from getting crepey (and creepy looking). And I dye my hair, but I’m starting the shift that my mother did about my age. I’m moving slowly toward a lighter red (from dark auburn). Eventually I will be strawberry blonde and then the gray won’t show so much. Probably in my 70’s I’ll just let the gray all hang out. I loved how my mother did this oh so gradually and nobody ever seemed to notice.

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    • I love your hair color idea! BRILLIANT! Now I’m rubbing my neck! Ha!
      I don’t have many wrinkles either and have the same skin type. Tamoxifen (anti-cancer drug) threw me into a subtle form of menopause and my skin is drier, but I haven’t had a zit since!
      Thanks for stopping by Kassandra!

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    • Right?
      With gray, silver, purple hair being the rage earlier this year, I wondered what mine would look like if I let it go white. Then I decided I feel better when it is dyed, about 5 minutes later… 🙂
      Thanks so much!

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  30. Somehow when you stop worrying about it all, you look a lot younger – even with just sunblock (which is the fountain of youth…that and never standing still – if you’re constantly in motion, like Wild Susie, they can’t get a good image to nail a year on. )
    Wrinkles means you lived. And a smile with twinkling eyes trumps wrinkles any time. Dance on, Susie

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  31. i find the less I do to my skin the more it appreciates me. I stayed away from makeup, from the sun, from smoking. And that’s allowed my skin to age gracefully. I’m starting to get forehead wrinkles and I may think about some cream at some point, but surgery is not an option. Little things to make me feel attractive are fine. I don’t think I’ll ever love my wrinkles but accepting them or working with them is my aim.

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    • Fantastic Kourtney! Sounds like you have an excellent perspective on aging.
      I actually scarred my skin in a few places from harsh skin care products. I agree that less is more and natural is everything! i use Bare Minerals for that reason too. My forehead wrinkles are just starting and have found that moisturizers help. I live in an extremely dry climate, so I keep a humidifier going 24-7!

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  32. Fabulous post Susie! I think I’m like you in this – I don’t love the fact that I’m showing signs of getting older, but I accept that it happens, I do care about my appearance and try to take care of it, but not in an obsessive way. About 7 or 8 years ago, I got back in touch with an old school friend who is my age and while we were chatting over drinks, she said “Have you had botox yet?”, yet! As if it’s a given that we would at some point! I much prefer to see someone ageing naturally than the over plastic-surgerised look. Radiating happiness is far more beautiful.

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    • Thanks so much Vanessa! I agree! I think there is a lot that can be done naturally. Eating well. Exercising. Isn’t sex supposed to be good for the skin? Ha! I would probably be shocked at how many of my friends have gotten a shot or two by now. As much as I would hate to look “old” I would hate to look puffy and pulled even more.

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  33. You can count me as a “core” person, too. I do like to keep in reasonable good shape, because it’s easier to have fun when you’re healthy and have the energy. And I refuse to let any age define who I am or what I should be like.

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  34. Great message, Susie. I work on my physical core and my inner core, but have to admit, the inner confidence is much harder to build than the ab muscles. I want to be healthy and live a very long time. Life is good and staying young at heart essential to being happy. Confidence is a tougher goal. Fake it till you make it!

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    • Thank you! I think confidence is a tenuous thing. My confidence goes up and down given the situation and who I’m with. I reinvented myself 4 years ago when I started writing. I had some set backs with people who didn’t want to hear about it or support me. I’ve moved on from those friends and feel a lot more confident. Blogging, writing books and screenplays make me feel better about myself.
      My focus is on getting my body back in shape after knee surgery, so I’ll keep on working on my core, figuratively and literally!
      Thanks for stopping by!

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  35. I don’t really think about aging that much. Well, wait a minute, that is until recently. First of all He-
    who is ten years older than me so I always feel young compared to him. Of all my sisters I have the least wrinkles. This I have attributed to fat filling in all my wrinkles. My husband has been partially blind for some time due to cataracts and had one eye fixed Dec. 11th and one fixed Feb. 5th. All of a sudden he notices everything.
    “I thought you had highlights in your hair but I see now it is grey.”
    “Is that an age spot on your hand? When did that start happening.”
    This is not going to end well for him. 😉

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    • That’s the right attitude!
      In the last few years, my few white hairs have become a wash of white. I think the three surgeries have something to do with it. That and my Irish heritage!

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  36. This reminds me of a Danish television program: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0bUItwlk1I8 I realize you don’t understand it but try skipping through it and see how four ageing women get up on small stages to be rated by men. The thinnest of them was told she had a good body but her face was too old. The others were too fat.
    The show was about how there aren’t enough women over forty in the medias. Under 2% or something like that. It’s ridiculous how scared we are of age.
    I’m 20 and my mouth lines/smile lines are already starting to show. (Particularly since I gained some healthy weight) What am I gonna do? Stop smiling? Lose weight again and be unhealthy?
    Bah. We can’t win on everything and removing the consequences of taking a choice would make that choice less valid.

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    • Thanks so much for joining the discussion!
      Okay. That show sounds horrible. It is so demeaning! In the US, there are many 40 and 50-year-old stars. But I know what you are saying. The majority of the media surrounds youth. I’m fine with that as long as I still feel valid.
      Did you see Birdman? It explored this topic along with many others.

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      • Never saw birdman, might give it a go.
        Actually the program was made BY those women. It was their idea to do it to show how judgmental people are, but also to face their own fears about their body images. Very interesting documentary.

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  37. Me? Aging just as I am. I’m not much on fussing with my appearance, ever, and I like my aging face and body more than I have at any other point in my life.

    I love the pomegranate Burt’s Bees lip balm. =)

    A lovely post, Susie, and befitting your spirit! ❤

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    • Awww!Thanks so much!
      I’m so glad to hear you are at peace with yourself over the whole aging thing. You rock!!!
      I spend some time on my appearance, but don’t obsess over it. It would be great to suddenly look younger and I do plan to do a three month 3x a week challenge to get my whole body back in shape. We’ll see how it goes!

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      • I think appearance is a personal thing. I love to watch my daughter primp and fuss; I’m just not made that way. I like to say that she’s the fancy daughter of a plain mom. =)

        It works out well, because my disinterest in the trappings means that we can afford her more of them, to her delight.

        Wishing you well with the challenge – although I’m guessing you’re gonna kick butt! =D

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  38. I’m so glad your knee is doing better, Susie. I’m not going to stop coloring my hair either. I didn’t know the doctor could burn the age spots off! The Arbonne Revelage has helped mine fade, and you can use it in combination with the anti-aging line. I wish I’d started using it a decade ago, too, but at least we have it now. Better late than never! My favorite line in this whole post? “Saggy butt – I never look back there.” Too funny!

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    • Hey Lynn!
      Dermatologists use liquid nitrogen to freeze them off. I love Arbonne and will continue to use product, but the idea of shooting my face up with fillers, makes me cringe. I don’t like the idea of not knowing what I’d look like.
      Thanks so much for stopping by! It’s always great to “see” you!!!

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