What Mila Kunis and Ashton Kutcher taught me last Friday

Last Friday, I shared the same small coffee shop with Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis,  and had a mind blown moment. Not because they’re celebrities. I’ve seen a ton of them over the years. And I don’t count those I pay to see. I do count the night at Mr. Chow when Sir Elton John held court at a table filled with beautiful men. The same night, Billy Bush stopped at our table to talk to my daughter and her friend. They had run into him on the way to the ladies’ room. Benicio Del Toro, Cybill Shepherd, Emily Blunt, Billy Idol… Trust me. It’s a long list.

I believe in The Secret. For those of you who aren’t aware, it’s a bestselling book about the power of positive thinking and the law of attraction. I’ve always felt like I’m that person. Lucky. The fact that my husband, Danny, and I got together is pure luck times ten. When I read The Secret several years ago, I tried it out. It asked the reader to imagine something cool happening and live like it already happened. I finished the book on our way to a resort in Costa Rica. I imagined running into a celebrity. Once we arrived, I realized how stupid that was. It was filled with families and everyone spoke Spanish. If there were celebrities at the resort, they would be lost on me. I don’t watch Telemundo.

After a long day of traveling, my husband and kids checked out the ocean. I sank into a recliner near the pool. A young man and woman walked past. He noticed my mesh bag. “Are you reading The Secret?”

“I just finished it.”

“Here.” He took out his ear buds and handed me his iPod. “I’m listening to it right now. We’re going to get something to eat. I’ll stop back in a little while.”

I listened to his iPod until he came back. He and his girlfriend sat down and we became acquainted with the whole, “Where are you from? What do you do?” kind of questions. Wait for it….

He was a freakin’ actor from Vancouver. NO LIE! He had just finished a series for the History Channel.

Flash forward over the next few years. I won EVERYTHING including a heli-ski trip in Canada and every raffle I entered. One time I bought an extra ticket for a friend and said, “Don’t worry. You’ll win.” We both won.

Then I came down with breast cancer three and a-half years ago. My luck had run out. I stopped winning. I worked really hard at positivity, but it was tough. I felt screwed over. I carried a weight of anxiety in my gut only released for a while between estrogen suppressants, (what my cancer ate) and for a week after the Wanderlust Yoga Festival last summer.

I turned a corner in January. I began meditating and the anxiety disappeared. For the first time in a long while, I looked forward to events. A happy feeling replaced the weight in my gut.

So what does this have to do with the Kutcher family?

The week before my trip to Burbank, California to visit my son, Kelly, I watched the movie Friends with Benefits starring Mila Kunis and remembered The Secret. I put the intention I would love to see Mila Kunis and Ashton Kutcher, into the Universe. I figured visualizing specific people might help. I also visualized Tim Ferriss of The 4-Hour Work Week fame. I’m a new fangirl.

I borrowed Kelly’s car for the weekend and planned to take it in for an oil change before heading to Malibu on Saturday. While driving to a coffee shop on Friday morning, I vibed out. I had to get the oil change now. On my way to a Jiffy Lube, I discovered a Valvoline with open bays. Bonus! I pulled in and checked it off my list.

Knowing Kelly had worked on music until the wee hours of the morning, I let him sleep in. With that same strong vibe, I changed direction and headed to a coffee shop back near my VRBO in Burbank. I had gone to a cute one the day before, but I wasn’t feeling it.

When I walked in, I was glad to see that although it was small there were several places to sit and hang out. A couple of bars with swivel chairs stood perpendicular to where you ordered, and bench seats and tables were scattered throughout. It was bright and I considered wearing my sunglasses, but slipped them into my purse. I cued up behind a few others to place an order for a $5.00 cup of joe and a lady with curly brown hair lined up behind me.

Seeing Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis blew my mind, but not for obvious reasonsFrom where I stood, I could see the door. In walked Ashton Kutcher. The Ashton Kutcher from my intention the week before! I just about dropped over. My heart slammed in my chest. He wore a baseball cap, a puffer jacket, (it was a bitter 58 degrees for Los Angelians) and jeans. I couldn’t help but stare. He knew, I knew who he was. His intense brown eyes glinted like, Don’t even and then quickly looked away while conversing with the lady behind me. I assume I smiled like an idiot or a kid on Christmas morning.

That’s the funny thing. I never ask for autographs or for photos and don’t talk to celebrities unless they hold eye contact, smile back, and say hello. Even then, I test the water with a, “Hi, how are yah?” If they answer, I might continue depending on the situation. By the way, he has amazing lips. I could see why Mila crushed on Ashton since starring opposite him on That 70’s Show.

The lady behind me gave Kutcher some estimates, but music blaring from overhead speakers drowned out his voice. I strained, but couldn’t hear much of anything. It’s probably why they chose that particular place. “Mind your own beeswax,” my deceased grandmother would have said.

I took a seat at the bar so I could watch Kutcher order and hoped they would sit nearby. The contractor chose a seat next to me. Whoa. Ashton walked toward me after ordering. I could have easily taken a great photograph, but just couldn’t. Not one person hassled him the whole time he was in that coffee shop although I suspect the Asian guy sitting on the end of the bar got some great photos.

I immediately texted my family and they begged for pictures. I took a subtle shot when he ordered breakfast. Then the contractor shuffled her binder and folders on the bar and slid closer to me.


“Do you need me to move down?” I asked.

“Maybe. Someone is joining us with a stroller.”

Holy mother of God! Mila Kunis and their new baby????

I slid as far down as I could and texted my family the update.

“Pictures of Mila Kunis, please,” said Danny and my brother, Joe.

I started writing this post when I sensed someone staring at me. I looked up. “Oh, hi,” I said.

Mila Kunis stood at my right elbow and carried baby Kutcher in a car seat. I couldn’t believe it. She flashed her gorgeous eyes over me and smiled. Then to my dismay, they moved to the back corner right in the window of the coffee shop to continue their conversation.

Mila walked to the line for coffee. She wore jeans, a cute gray sweater, and fancy-like tennis shoes. Tennis shoes are a big thing in LA right now.

I was impressed that both Ashton and Mila waited in line like regular people. They didn’t pull the, “Hey, I’m a celebrity, so I’m not waiting,” card. Nor did the contractor offer to wait for them. Cool.

Again, I could’ve gotten a straight up shot of Mila walking right toward me, but took a subtle photo of her ordering instead.


I picked up Kelly so we could order breakfast and we returned right when Ashton left. Mila still sat in the corner with the contractor.

My observations:

If they would’ve worn sunglasses, I might not have recognized them. They didn’t seem to care. They didn’t engage with me at all although their contractor was friendly. They chose a public place for their meeting and took a chance on paparazzi.

Good on them for living their lives! I can’t imagine having to hunker down all the time and stay out of the public eye. I’ve had some mistaken identity moments and the attention can be awkward. Watch for another post about that. Crazy.

Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis remind me of Danny and me. I have a feeling this couple will last. I obviously trust my feelings. I crushed on Danny when I was in the 8th grade, but he was four years ahead of me. Our families went to a Brewer game on Memorial Day in 1987 when he was in Wisconsin for the weekend. He rarely came back from Colorado to visit. I flew out for the Telluride Bluegrass Festival in June and we booked the priest and the Church over the 4th of July. Truth. Check out this post.

The biggest takeaway? The Secret works when you believe in it. I had felt down and kicked in the gut until a few weeks ago. Seeing them after that crazy ass intention, blew my mind. After all my setbacks, I’m back. Thank you Kutcher family for being so amazing and setting me back on track.

I’ll see Tim Ferriss next time.

By the way, don’t bother entering any contests. I’ll win.

Have you seen any celebrities? Who would you like to meet?

Other crazy stories that could only happen to me:

Our Secret is Out!

An Insane Circumstance

When People Think You’re Crazy

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        1. I didn’t see the movie. I should, especially now… It’s all about the belief that something will happen. Confidence paves the way! I better start believing in some things to further my writing career. Ha!
          Has it worked for you?


  1. That is an incredible story! I would be the same way if I saw a celeb. I try to remember they are humans after all just trying to live their daily lives.

    I think The Secret does work. I entered a contest to meet David Gray and have a private concert oceanside in Portland. When I entered I told myself that I would win. There was just no doubt. In my mind it was a done deal. Of course, I did win. I never win anything!


    1. Thanks Darla!
      There was a guy who came into the coffee shop who danced around before Kutcher arrived. I said, “Wow, you’re in a happy mood,” and then regretted it. He would not leave me alone! I like talking to people when I’m out and about, but sitting down in a coffee shop is like traveling on a plane. I’m stuck in a seat, so I have to be careful if I want to chill for a while.
      Some celebrities love to talk to fans and others don’t. I heard from a young woman working retail in Malibu, that I had just missed Chris Hemsworth, (dang!) but that he was very private. She said Adam Sandler loves to talk to people when he sees them in Malibu. I’ll have to look for him next time!

      I seriously put that thought into the Universe to test The Secret and to see if my luck had changed and it did! I think that’s the trick. You have to believe it’s going to happen. How cool are you???? Wow!


    1. Right? Looking back, I still can’t believe it. I wonder what they would think if they read it. Ha! They would probably remember me sitting there with my checked cap, eyes all wide and staring… 🙂

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  2. Love your writing Susie. I read The Secret some years ago and I can see it now peeking at me from the bookcase as I type this to you. Maybe I should blow the dust off it and give it another try! I particularly liked the story about the person who wanted to travel but never got further than dreaming about it until she packed a case and left it somewhere handy in the house showing the Universe her full intention to go at a moment’s notice – and also the man who was unlucky in love until it was pointed out that his favourite painting had a woman with her back to him walking away, he changed it and the woman of his dreams walked in to his life. Got to be worth a shot!


    1. You gave me shivers. Thank you!
      Putting an intention into the Universe doesn’t cost a thing and can totally work. I need to get started on some that would help me and my writing career. Ha! You should definitely try it again. The idea is to bring yourself to the calm feeling that it will happen, so be careful what you wish for!
      Keep me posted!


  3. Wonderful story and great in the telling. I’ve met a few celebrities over the years, mostly in airports, but none that would recount the story to their friends, I fear. The one I’d like to meet the most is my doppelganger, Donald Sutherland. Quite a resemblance, I’m told by many.


    1. Thanks so much, Al.
      I’ve never seen celebrities in airports. We used to have a toy and school supply business that took us to NYC for Toy Fair and we traveled to California every couple of years. Now that Kelly is going to music production school, I make the trip more often. But I’ve also seen them in Denver. I have a funny story about living on the 35th floor of the Embassy Suites. Next time!
      That’s so cool! You could probably work as his body double! Ha!


  4. I’ve met quite a few celebrities and even worked with some. It’s hard sometimes, but treating them like they are just the other guy in the line is really important for you and them. Good for you taking that road. I try hard to keep the power of positive thinking going. That’s hard sometimes too. Sometimes it helps just to not go negative.


    1. You have a very cool job! They really are like everyone else except for the klout and everyone knows them. Ha!
      Positivity takes practice. I’ve always been naturally optimistic to a fault, but the last couple years packed a punch. It feels good to stand up and feel the sunshine again!
      Thanks for reading!


  5. The Secret never worked for me…I’d say it was a bunch of hokey crap if it wasn’t for you! But since I can’t cast a spell worth a hoot (also due to doubt, I’m told–I did a rantblog on that one), I imagine it’s the same thing.

    As for celebs the only nationally-known one I’ve met is Tommy Chong…but that was a cheat, as it was a book signing. 😛


  6. I stood behind Peter Frampton at our local Star$. He turned around to say “hello” to me. I didn’t recognize him, but smiled and said “hi” back to him. Only a few days later did I find out who he was. The Secret wasn’t involved in my encounter, unless you consider Frampton’s identity was “secret” to me. 😉


    1. Hahahaha! You crack me up, Ally. I think I’ve probably seen a lot of them too that I didn’t recognize. I don’t watch a ton of TV.
      That is so cool that he said hi! That’s a guy you might have conversed with. Next time! 🙂

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  7. It’s amazing how ordinary most celebrities are in the flesh, as it were – everyday people who say hello and live everyday lives like everybody else, when it comes down to it. Here in NZ we pay zero attention to them, it’s a cultural thing anyway (using somebody’s first name, even if they’re the boss’s boss, is a mark of respect here in ways it doesn’t seem to be in other countries). The result is that although quite a few well known people end up walking around Wellington thanks to Sir Peter Jackson’s movie enterprise, nobody mobs them. Personally I’ve run into Stephen Fry (I didn’t stop him to say ‘hello, you’re Stephen Fry,’ as I’m sure he knew that already…), Billy Connolly (ditto) and doubtless others I didn’t recognise (no, really – I don’t watch TV and am very picky about movies…).


    1. That is so cool! I love your laid back culture. I would love to visit some day.
      I think meeting celebs is like rubbing elbows with people whose lives I cannot imagine. They have clout and their voices are heard. Although it’s not all red carpet glitz. They still have to deal with the commonalities of life…. Ha!
      Thanks for stopping by, Matthew!

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  8. That’s funny. I’ve read The Secret and I try to apply it’s simple principles, but . . . nope, nothing cool like that. Maybe I’m not being specific enough. Although that red corvette is still not in my driveway. I was pretty clear about that one.

    Keep on keeping on my friend. I love hearing the stories.

    Patricia Rickrode
    w/a Jansen Schmidt


    1. That’s my plan! Thanks Patricia!
      I think it helps to be specific. I just listened to a video of someone professing the Secret. She said it will happen when the time is right. Are you ready? Vroooooooooommmmmmm!

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  9. I once ran into (quite literally – she banged into to me leaving a store in Sausalito). I almost didn’t recognize her w/out makeup and she wasn’t nearly as tall as I thought.


    1. You’re talking about Mila? She was about my height, 5′ 4″ or so, but I was sitting when I saw her.
      That’s cool! One time we were in NYC and Danny got knocked over by Jack Nicholson. They were both looking at the same toys. He pushed him back and then saw who it was!


  10. Fun story. I didn’t even know they were a couple, much less have a kid. But then I guess I’m not that much of an Ashton fanboy, although I do like him. I would love to share a glass of whiskey with Mila though… oh wait, I forgot, I quit drinking.


    1. Thanks, Ted! It was crazy.
      They have a newborn, a couple of months old. Ha! I don’t drink either. Maybe you could share a pot of coffee. I know that’s their beverage of choice in the morning!
      Thanks for reading! Always great to see you.

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  11. You’re quite the manifester! Awesome. So glad you got your groove, your mojo back. I love to being in the flow when I’m running errands: getting the green lights and parking spots, being at the deli counter just as they have a lull in customers (so I don’t have to wait long), and being that person in line who gets called over when a new cashier opens up another line.


  12. They say you make your own luck, and I believe there’s a lot of truth to that. Remember your friends when the winning lottery numbers magically occur to you…old buddy…old pal.


    1. People who say they’re unlucky never have any luck. Our words are powerful. I have to be really careful since I talk a lot! 🙂

      Right? When those numbers pop into my head, I’ll bolt to a 7/11.


  13. That is an incredible account of your running into Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis. But more than that, it’s the positivity of the story that is going to remain with me. I guess I need to read Secret quick!


  14. I saw Michael Jordan at a local arcade with his kids 15 years ago. I felt really bad for him and his kids because they could not do anything. The whole time there was a huge group of people trying to get an autograph.


    1. See, I think that is so wrong. I leave them alone. In places like LA and NYC, people get used to seeing them and tend to give them their space, like rare birds. 🙂 I would hate to be mobbed, after the 10th time. Ha!


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